For most couples, going through a divorce is difficult. Moving forward is usually more difficult when the couple has children. In addition to taking care of your own needs, you also need to be concerned about how they are feeling. While it may not be possible to completely alleviate your children’s sadness tied to the divorce, there are things you can do to make them feel better.
Depending on the age of the child their needs will of course vary. Generally, children who are younger than 10 years old should be made to understand that despite no longer living together as one family unit, they still have two parents who love them. It is also important to not speak poorly about your ex. Sometimes showing enthusiasm them getting to spend time with their other parent helps. Sticking to the parenting time schedule developed, is also a good way to get them used to the routine. Reminding them ahead of time that they have a visit coming up may be helpful.
Kids who are over the age of 10 often have a lot more going on in their lives than younger individuals. Because their friends are usually so important to them, it is important to let them know you understand how important their time with them is. A good way to demonstrate this may be to let them bring a friend to a planned activity. Friends aren’t the only thing that takes up the time of older kids. They may have extracurricular activities, sports and jobs that make their schedules more complicated. In addition, they may want to spend more time alone. When possible, their needs should be respected.
If both parents make an effort to make co-parenting work, there is a much better chance the kids will be happy following a divorce.