Getting through a divorce or a child custody dispute is difficult enough emotionally. It is unlikely that a person will go through this experience alone. In these instances, it is easy for a person to lean on someone emotionally (and perhaps romantically) for support. Because of this, some may question whether a person going through a divorce or custody matter should date someone else during this process.
Ultimately, it is a question of scruples, because there is no clear right or wrong answer. However, there are certain elements that should be considered. This post will highlight a few of them.
How does your lifestyle affect the child? – Despite what people may say or believe about your choice in romantic partners, the litmus test will be about how your lifestyle or dating choices affects your child. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t date at all or have a clandestine romance. But the second that your child is affected, it is fair game for scrutiny.
Will your ex be affected? – Some people have enough trouble with their ex without the specter of jealousy, but others believe that there is nothing wrong with sticking it to their ex by moving on to someone else, and showing off the relationship. Again, this may be asking for trouble where nothing needs to be started.
How will the court react? – Indeed, you may not think it’s right for the court to judge you, but you must remember that the court is looking to see whether the child will be harmed emotionally or physically in your care.
If you have additional questions about dating during divorce, an experienced family law attorney can help.