For many people, holidays are one of the toughest times of the year to cope with after a divorce. This is particularly true of divorced parents who must navigate their own feelings along with their children’s needs and custody arrangements.
If you are having trouble dealing with holidays after your divorce, these tips may help.
1. Don’t compare yourself to others
The holidays are an easy time to fall into the trap of thinking everyone has a perfect family, except for you. Don’t let all the happy-go-lucky posts on Facebook fool you, all families go through struggles.
2. Don’t live in the past
Some people make themselves miserable by focusing on all the things they could or should have done to keep their marriage from falling apart. Focus on the present and on building the future you want instead.
3. Find a support network
If you are a single father missing your kids on Father’s Day or a single mom spending Thanksgiving alone, seek other people in your same situation and form a support group.
4. Avoid toxic relationships
Don’t spend your time around friends and family who shame you because of your divorce. Instead, seek out empathetic people, instead of judgmental ones.
5. Ask for help
If missing your children or ex-spouse during the holidays has you at your breaking point, seek help. Consider talking to a family therapist or other mental health professional.
As soon as you get through one holiday, it seems like another is right around the corner. However, you can take steps to overcome your struggles with holidays after your divorce.